Missy Higgins is a musician I have loved the music of since I was in my 20’s and I have found great value in her songs expressions from her heart. She is so raw and honest in her messages, that even if I dont agree with everything she says I can still appreciate the beauty in her life and the way she can set others free to be themselves.

When I came across this song it highlighted an area of freedom about not being in boxes. Sometimes we can be involved in the narrative of a group and have a desire to perform and please so much that we can loose our own identity as a person with dreams and hopes of their own. Pushing them down for the sake of a cause only to find out we are in a system where individuals needs and emotions are disregarded for a supposed greater good. This to me is where systems and structures that are designed to create a desired outcome can actually hurt the people they are designed to help.

We can actually be caught up in a kind of witchcraft where we are in a prophetic flow which has good intentions but then borders on something unhealthy by the way we feel we have to go with its flow.

If you are identifying something like this in your life then it might be worth considering how to switch on the light in that area of your life so that you can be free and bring freedom to others that are caught in an unhealthy reality of other peoples outcomes that border on manipulation.

So how to overcome this issue?

Here are some ideas on the topic:

1.) Always interact with others from a point of view of the heart of love of the father with no agenda on what you want the outcome to be but being a conduit to facilitate their healing or need.

2.) Be open to the sensitivity required to just be with them without the need to be right and wanting to be over them by asserting your view

3.) Make it a judgement free zone where they can feel safe to breathe

4.) provide a road map for them if requested that has healthy choice options for them to make their own decisions